Next meeting March 10, 2014; Minutes from February meeting

The next Meeting of the Minnesota Threshold Network is Monday, March 10, 7pm at the home of Nancy Manahan and Becky Bohan, 21 E. Rustic Lodge Ave., Minneapolis.

Focus of the meeting is the Conversation: how to discuss with our loved ones our wishes for end-of-life care and/or after-death care. People can prepare by going to Ellen Goodman’s Conversation Project, downloading the starter kit, and taking it to the meeting.

A secondary focus will be publicizing the June 10, 2014, 7pm annual MTN free public forum: Home-Based After Death Care: What is it? Why would anyone want to do it? with guest speaker Elizabeth Knox. Location to be announced.

Elizabeth Knox is president of the National Home Funeral Alliance and executive director of Crossings: Caring for Our Own, a national home funeral and green burial resource center. Elizabeth came to the love and wonder of home funeral work through personal loss. Since her daughter’s death, she has been an advocate for the healing power of home-based after-death care, teaching workshops internationally for the last 15 years, and establishing self-sufficient home funeral support circles in communities across the U.S.

So why would we choose a home funeral? Elizabeth Knox points to several considerations:

The Healing Power of Caring for Our Own Dead: What is the single most prevalent fear for humans? Death. And what is the single most healing act available to humans? Love. In caring for our departed as an act of love, we are able to transform our deepest fear.

Serving the Dead: We honor the vessel, the body of our beloved. We disturb it as little as possible. We tend to it with respect, and as if it is still inhabited by the one we love.

Serving the Families of the Dead: We believe that no one can better tend to our departed than those who have known and loved them. We give permission to care for a beloved family member. We offer truth in dispelling the misunderstandings that surround death care. We give the family guideposts on an unfamiliar path.

Serving the Earth: We stand for a return to simplicity in funeral care, transforming the need for the consumption of hard materials to bury in the earth—the concrete liners, the formaldehyde, the steel, the rare hardwood from the rainforest —and the fossil fuels consumed for cremation. We actually give something back to the earth when we are buried in it directly.

We know that caring for our own dead is not for everyone, but families should know that they have the choice. We can bring death care back into the home, where it began, and to our way of thinking, where it belongs. If we send our dead off to an institutional setting, those who love them best are not directly involved in their care and cannot bear witness to the transformation that happens when we care for our own.

The gentle but radical home funeral/green burial movement stands for the healing power of caring for our own departed. We serve the dead. We serve the families of the dead. We serve the Earth. We believe that no less than the healing of our society is at stake.

Minutes of the Minnesota Threshold Network Meeting February 10, 2014

Six were present on this bitterly cold night.

We watched clips from the French film, Amour, which chronicles the decline and death of an elderly woman cared for by her husband in their own apartment. Our conversation focused on the intimacy of the death journey, and how each individual/family response to it is personal and unique. This reinforced the awareness of the need to begin early to talk about choices, and to begin disengaging with life now. All agreed that hospice can contribute to dignity and quality of life when introduced earlier in the journey.


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