December event: Our Annual Book Share

Mark your calendar!
MTN’s Annual Book Sharing meeting:
Tuesday December 15, 2020, 7-9 pm (central time)

This year, in addition to focusing on family-directed after-death care and green burials, MTN is joining the national conversation about white privilege and systemic racism. Share your favorite book, video, or podcast on death and dying or unlearning racism. Go home with a list for great winter reading, viewing, and listening.

Zoom link: December 15, 2020 7:00 PM
Linda Bergh (MTN) is inviting you to a scheduled Zoom meeting.

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October MTN Zoom Program: Homegoings

Showing “Homegoings 

a documentary film of a Harlem Funeral Director, by Christine Turner

You are invited to join MN Threshold Network’s (MTN) program to learn with us about traditional Black funerals as carried out by Owens Funeral Home in both Harlem, NY and in NC. In this film your senses will be touched and your heart warmed by the love, music and care that is taken to honor the deceased and family on their journey to freedom by going home. After the film there will be a facilitated discussion. We suggest that in preparation for this film you also watch “Why are Black and White Funeral Homes STILL Separate?” a seventeen-minute interview with Black funeral historian Dr. Kami Fletcher by Caitlin Doughty on her Ask a Mortician channel, for greater cultural context from which this particular type of black homegoing comes from. MTN will not be teaching, only sharing a resource for the purpose of greater cultural appreciation and understanding.

When: 7:00pm, Tuesday, October 20, 2020 (please note the new date of the 3rd Tuesday of the month)

Where: Zoom  Invitation below 

In case you can’t attend but still want to see the films:

MTN Zoom meeting Tuesday October 20, 2020 7-9 PM.

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Black Funerals Homes in Twin Cities:

1. Estes Funeral Chapel, founded in 1962, the only Black-owned and operated funeral home in Mpls. In 2018, Estes built a new facility at 2201 Plymouth Ave N.See this KARE-11 news story.

2. Brooks Funeral Home, since 1941, is at 862 Concordia Ave. St. Paul. 651-228-1935. Margaret Brooks is the owner. See video mentioning Corona Virus at https://www.brooksfuneralhomemn.com/

3. Speilman Mortuary at 344 University Ave, St. Paul, owned since 1984 by the Willwerscheid family, primarimly serves Black families.  https://www.spielmanmortuary.com/obits

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May event: Building Community: Accessing Resources at the End of Life

The MTN Twin Cities May event will take place on Tuesday, May 12, 2020, 7 – 9 p.m. See the end of this email for details on accessing the meeting.
This session is designed for people who may not feel that they have enough social or personal support to have the kind of end-of-life experience and an intimate home vigil to honor their life, in the way they may want.
There will be two sections to the evening. First how to begin to think about the support you already have. but not fully recognized. The second half will help you learn about resources and volunteers that are available through MN Threshold Network.
Also appropriate for individuals and people who represent social services that work with folks who many find themselves in this situation such a people living in halfway houses, programs, independent elderly with little family, people who feel outside familial social supports, network of friends that function like family, etc. Come join us on-line for the evening’s program.
Join with Google Meet: meet.google.com/ish-xonv-yoj
Join by phone: ‪+1 260-623-4302‬ PIN: ‪648 638 121‬#

April Meeting Postponed

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Hello and happy Wednesday, Thresholders! We hope this message finds you as well as can be in these unusual times.
Most of you will have guessed this already, especially with Governor Walz’s newly released Stay-at-Home order, but we want to make it official:
The April Minnesota Threshold Network Meeting has been postponed.
 
We invite you stay home with your loved ones, if you’re able. Perhaps take the time to complete or review your advance directives, wills, and funeral wishes. Maybe check out the resources on the MTN website. And if you’re an essential services provider who’s still out there working: thank you. We appreciate everything you do for the health and welfare of Minnesota.
What do May and June hold for MTN? Well, we’re not sure yet. We invite you to keep your eyes on your inbox and the MTN Facebook page for future announcements.
Let’s continue to check in with each other and look out for one another. We’re all in this together. Even while we’re apart.
From our hearts and hearths to yours,
-The Minnesota Threshold Network core team

March Twin Cities Event: Readers Theater

The March Minnesota Threshold Network Twin Cities event will take place on
Monday, March 9, 2020 (please note that this is a different day of the week than usual!)
7:00-9:00PM
Falcon Heights Church, United Church of Christ
1795 Holton St (click for map)
Falcon Heights, MN 55113
This Reader’s Theater has been edited for the Minnesota Threshold Network after its debut in NY as a part of a national conference. Come hear how individual community members reflect on their part in the holding of the two teenagers, Nina and Kirsten, and their families in 1996 in Harlemville, NY – both the time leading up to the car accident and throughout the home vigil and the following days. The girls’ parents, Linda Bergh, Marianne and Dennis Dietzel will be present and read their parts. Linda and Marianne are founding members of MTN.

MTN March
All MTN events are free and open to the public. Donations from the heart are always welcome and help pay for brochure printing and venue rental.

Accessibility and Parking at the Falcon Heights Church:

  • The meeting is on the main floor, with the entrance to building accessible via sidewalk from the curb.
  • One gender-neutral/accessible bathroom and two single-gender bathrooms available on main floor.
  • There is ample parking in lot across the street, including disability spots.

Materials from January Meeting

Hi, all!

Eli here, thanking you again, on behalf of myself and my co-workshoppers Shannon and Root, for making it out to our “Working Respectfully with Trans and Nonbinary Communities” meeting earlier this month. Attached are the materials from the meeting: a PDF of the slideshow we used, as well as the resource list we mentioned.

And remember: we just barely scratched the surface of what’s out there in the trans and/or nonbinary world. If this topic piques your interest, we encourage you to keep exploring.

Drop me a line if you have questions: eli.effinger.weintraub at gmail dot com

January Twin Cities Meeting: Working Respectfully with Trans and Nonbinary Communities

The next Minnesota Threshold Network Twin Cities meeting, “Working Respectfully with Trans and Nonbinary Communities,” will take place on:

Tuesday, January 14, 2020
7-9 PM
St. Peder’s Lutheran Church
4600 E 42nd St
Minneapolis, MN 55406
(click link for map)

https://www.pinknews.co.uk/2018/07/26/daine-grey-funeral-trans-student-celebration/
A coffin draped with the trans pride flag. Photo by Lady Katarina, from the 2018 funeral of Daine Grey.

Transgender and nonbinary people have existed for as long as human cultures have been creating genders, but some of our language and concepts may be new to you. Transgender and nonbinary individuals and communities may have different needs and face different challenges around end of life and after-death care than our cisgender peers.  Join Minnesota Threshold Network on a journey through the wonderful world of trans and nonbinary terminology, current concerns, and what we in the deathcare field can do to ensure that our work respects this diverse and vibrant community.

Our guides on this exploration are:

MTN facilitators: Eli Effinger-Weintraub and Anne Murphy

 

All Minnesota Threshold Network  meetings are free and open to the public. Donations from the heart for space rental and printing materials are gladly accepted.

 

Accessibility info: 

  • Building is ADA compliant. There is no curb cut on the east side of the building (where we will be entering), but the entrance is accessible from the sidewalk. We will update later once we understand how to best access the sidewalk that leads to the door.
  • Building has an all-gender restroom.
  • Lights are either on/off, not dimmable.
  • There is a furnace that occasionally will make one loud-ish hissing sound. It is unpredictable.
  • Scented cleaning products are sometimes used in the space. Please limit your use perfumes, lotions, or other scented products as much as possible before the event.

 

RickyRides carpooling link: http://www.rickyrides.com/minnesota-threshold-network-january-meeting

 

MTN Twin Cities December Meeting: Facing Holidays After the Death of a Loved One

The Minnesota Threshold Network Twin Cities December meeting will take place on

Tuesday, December 10th, from 7-9 pm

at

Plymouth Congregational Church, Jackman Room
1919 LaSalle Ave South, Minneapolis (click for map)
(enter through Door #1 at the above address)

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It’s holiday season. Loud messages of good cheer and celebration flood the shops and media airways. Holiday season can be a sacred time of deepening and solace, or it could be a time of stress and loneliness after the death of a loved one. Come join us to explore how you can make inner and outer spaces that support making room for feelings of grief and loss. We will explore how you can honor your own truth and the memory of your loved one throughout the holiday season and beyond.

MTN Facilitators: Ellen Hufschmidt, Chaplain and Grief Counselor; and Kyoto Katayama, Psychotherapist Emerita and Death Educator

The program is sponsored by Minnesota Threshold Network
and supported by Plymouth Congregational Church’s Mortality Project.

All Minnesota Threshold Network  meetings are free and open to the public. Donations of the heart for space rental and printing materials are gladly accepted.

Accessibility info: We will be meeting in a lower level room, which is accessible by elevator. Some of the building’s restrooms are all-gender. Lighting levels are adjustable if needed.

New this month! If you’re interested in carpooling to the meeting, we have an event set up on RickyRides. Click here to ask for or offer a ride!

November MTN Event: Passion, Wisdom, Community

The next Minnesota Threshold Network Twin Cities meeting, Passion, Wisdom, Community, will be held on

Tuesday, November 12, 2019
7:00 PM
at
St. Mary’s Episcopal Church
1895 Laurel Ave, St. Paul MN 55104 (click for map)

NHFA Team
Some of the MTN members who attended the NHFA conference in October, along with our decorated mock vigil coffin. Photo by Barbara McAfee.

Please join MTN for a recap and lively discussion on the National Home Funeral Alliance biennial national conference, which was held this October in Minnesota. Some of the conference participants and presenters will report on our experiences, including the mock vigil room, the Saturday night art share, heart connections, and more. We’ll share patterns we noticed, things we’re excited about, and actions we’re inspired to take next.

Participants may include:

  • Anne Murphy
  • Cat Campion
  • Cindy Vernosky
  • Ellen Hufschmidt
  • Eli Effinger-Weintraub
  • Karen Greer
  • Kyoko Katayama
  • Laurel Riedel
  • Linda Bergh
  • Linda Butler
  • Syneva Barrett
  • …and you!

St. Mary’s has both single- and all-gender restrooms and an elevator. All Minnesota Threshold Network meetings are free and open to the public; we gratefully accept donations to help pay for meeting spaces. Please feel free to contact us with questions.

April 9 Film on Death with Dignity

How to Die in Oregon
If you were terminally ill, would you want the right to choose? The award-winning documentary film How to Die in Oregon follows 52-year-old Cody Curtis, grappling with end-stage of liver cancer, as she decides to utilize Oregon’s Death with Dignity law.
Join Dr. Rebecca Thoman and Rev. Harlan Limpert for a discussion following the film. Rebecca Thoman, M.D., is a manager of Compassion & Choices’ Doctors for Dignity initiative. Harlan Limpert, retired COO of the Unitarian Universalist Association, leads the Minnesota Interfaith Clergy for End-of-Life Options.
Tuesday April 9, 7 to 9:30pm at the home of Linda Bergh, 4315 Xerxes Ave. South, Minneapolis. Look for the Earth Flag flying.
On March 7, 2019, the End-of-Life Option Act, House File 2152, was introduced in the Minnesota House of Representatives:30 by Rep. Mike Freiberg. The bill would authorize medical aid in dying in Minnesota.
Compassion & Choices envisions a society that affirms life and accepts the inevitability of death, embraces expanded options for compassionate dying, and empowers everyone to choose end-of-life care that reflects their values, priorities and beliefs.