George Floyd

I see you, friends of color
suffering endless persecution
facing constant prejudice

fighting against a rigged system

systems stacked against you
inherently stacks us against each other
liberty and justice for some
in the end is equality for none

–Tanner Magnum

The Minnesota Threshold Network mourns the killing of George Floyd in Minneapolis. We stand with our Black neighbors in their grief and rage and demands for justice.

June 9th event: Virtual Memorial Service, Graveside Service, Green Burial

Please join us on Tuesday, June 9, 7-9 p.m. (Central Time), as MTN members Anne Archbold, Marilaurice Hemlock, and Karen Greer share their experiences with creating and facilitating memorial services during the complicated coronavirus time.

Even though we at MTN view funeral possibilities in a much broader context than many, this pandemic has gotten us to stretch even further – to Zoom!
  • Zoom helps us be a part of a memorable funeral from our living room or office.
    It can be a smaller group setting where you share with others in an informal way rather than a formal setting.
    Families can tell stories and show memorabilia that was left behind by the deceased.
    Zoom can save us from flying across the country to attend a relative or friend’s funeral.
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REVISED MAY EVENT: Living in the Time of a Pandemic: An Open Conversation

In light of the current pandemic, we want to provide a place to share our experience of living in this challenging time. We will return to the original topic of this May meeting at a later time.

If you need assistance, call the MN End-of-Life Doula hotline: 1-888-351-8999

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A quote on solitude and community by Parker Palmer:

Solitude does not necessarily mean living apart from others; rather, it means never living apart from one’s self. It is not about the absence of other people—it is about being fully present to ourselves, whether or not we are with others. Community does not necessarily mean living face-to-face with others; rather, it means never losing the awareness that we are connected to each other. It is not about the presence of other people—it is about being fully open to the reality of relationship, whether or not we are alone.

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Meeting info:

TUESDAY, MAY 12, 2020, 7:00 p.m. (Eastern)

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May event: Building Community: Accessing Resources at the End of Life

The MTN Twin Cities May event will take place on Tuesday, May 12, 2020, 7 – 9 p.m. See the end of this email for details on accessing the meeting.
This session is designed for people who may not feel that they have enough social or personal support to have the kind of end-of-life experience and an intimate home vigil to honor their life, in the way they may want.
There will be two sections to the evening. First how to begin to think about the support you already have. but not fully recognized. The second half will help you learn about resources and volunteers that are available through MN Threshold Network.
Also appropriate for individuals and people who represent social services that work with folks who many find themselves in this situation such a people living in halfway houses, programs, independent elderly with little family, people who feel outside familial social supports, network of friends that function like family, etc. Come join us on-line for the evening’s program.
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Join by phone: ‪+1 260-623-4302‬ PIN: ‪648 638 121‬#

April Meeting Postponed

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Hello and happy Wednesday, Thresholders! We hope this message finds you as well as can be in these unusual times.
Most of you will have guessed this already, especially with Governor Walz’s newly released Stay-at-Home order, but we want to make it official:
The April Minnesota Threshold Network Meeting has been postponed.
 
We invite you stay home with your loved ones, if you’re able. Perhaps take the time to complete or review your advance directives, wills, and funeral wishes. Maybe check out the resources on the MTN website. And if you’re an essential services provider who’s still out there working: thank you. We appreciate everything you do for the health and welfare of Minnesota.
What do May and June hold for MTN? Well, we’re not sure yet. We invite you to keep your eyes on your inbox and the MTN Facebook page for future announcements.
Let’s continue to check in with each other and look out for one another. We’re all in this together. Even while we’re apart.
From our hearts and hearths to yours,
-The Minnesota Threshold Network core team

Reflections from Reader’s Theater

Reflections on Minnesota Threshold Network Meeting of March 9, 2020,

Reader’s Theater of A Death Caring Community…

Over 65 people and 18 readers filled the space at Falcon Heights United Church of Christ.  The Reader’s Theater of A Death Caring Community was a response to the accidental deaths of two teens. Created for a national conference in 2019, this was the first presentation in Minnesota.

BACKGROUND for those not at the meeting:

Dennis Dietzel: “When Nina (our daughter) and Kirsten (Lindas daughter) were killed  in an automobile accident and Linda was severely injured, we were so fortunate that the community where the accident occurred had experience with a home vigil. When that was offered as a possibility, we knew immediately it was the right thing. For us and so many others it provided a beginning to our grief journey that was surrounded by love and beauty, and provided a touchstone which has allowed us to give back to others over the years. Just as for birth, the time of death is too precious to give over to others if it is possible for us to claim it for ourselves and our loved ones who have crossed the threshold.”

Linda Bergh: When Marianne and Dennis and I were asked to share our experience     for a national conference, we contacted people in NY (and family from Minnesota) and asked them to write their story. Then we created a script and shared it, with people reading their own parts. It was presented at Sacred Gateway Conference on Conscious Dying and After Death Care, and the Journey Beyond in May 2019 for 150 people in Harlemville, NY, where the accident happened in 1996.

This year MTN supported us in sharing this same script – but with readers from Minnesota. All of the readers knew the Dietzel and Bergh families at the time of the accident.

MTN Readers Theater
Readers and attendees of the reader’s theater event

REFLECTIONS

From Ann, attendee: I could see through the story that Kirsten and Nina had laid a foundation, scattered seeds, and ignited love in the community that then became shelter for their passing and solace for their MN families.  . . . . I could feel that love when one reader described the dark road and four broken-hearted travelers, coming upon the house with lights, filled with love and a safe place to weep and be with Nina and Kirsten in death.

From Karen, MTN member/leader: I saw Monday evening as a great undertaking and a Celebration of the Story of 1996 for the three of you parents, your daughters and sons and your communities. Thanks so much for your “eloquent authenticity” in sharing the pain and the joy and connectedness that you all experienced.   I loved the music as a beautiful expression of the “pauses” that we all need to take in life.  You did a wonderful job on the saxophone, piano and lyre.

Other comments

“Community building in action.” 

“I do hope you’ll be able to share your story at other places in the future.”

“I came away with one sentence: “Love is greater than loss.”

From Linda Bergh: What a remarkable evening, I am grateful for this conscious dying work and a community open to experiencing our learnings about how love is always here, even in the most challenging moments. After the reading last night, we talked about community, and I realized this morning that the event itself was an expression of community. Having the courage to be present to each others stories builds connection, so that we can listen when our own lives ask us to step up.

With the music of the saxophone and piano still ringing deep inside, I want to thank those who read, those who came, and those who were with us in spirit. 

Here is a segment from Kirsten and Nina’s dear friend who was 15 when the accident happened:

Hours and hours of travel – Warm welcoming arms of comfort. The hospital bed with Linda curled up in shock    Then – Arriving where I did not want to be ……  

A living room I had been in just a few weeks earlier when I had visited Kirsten before I left for school in France. I was afraid to go in. Yet in all the awfulness of the moment of seeing Kirsten and Ninas bodies, what I found was a welcoming warm space. Grief and shock were everywhere in the room, but it was not a scary place. This community of people I hardly knew had created a space where I felt welcomed and simply allowed to be with my friends’ bodies with no expectations. I felt so grateful. Food, candles, gentle quiet, music, warm hugs, crying together.

With the sudden nature of these deaths, the vigil gave me the space and time to say good-bye and be with Kirsten and Ninas spirits. I spent hours just being there next to the wooden coffins in the middle of the living room. I stroked their hair, sang to them, talked to them. I was made to feel that this was normal and okay, that grieving and death can be part of community life. I believe my grief process was greatly impacted by the way this community held space for the deaths of my dear friends.

March Twin Cities Event: Readers Theater

The March Minnesota Threshold Network Twin Cities event will take place on
Monday, March 9, 2020 (please note that this is a different day of the week than usual!)
7:00-9:00PM
Falcon Heights Church, United Church of Christ
1795 Holton St (click for map)
Falcon Heights, MN 55113
This Reader’s Theater has been edited for the Minnesota Threshold Network after its debut in NY as a part of a national conference. Come hear how individual community members reflect on their part in the holding of the two teenagers, Nina and Kirsten, and their families in 1996 in Harlemville, NY – both the time leading up to the car accident and throughout the home vigil and the following days. The girls’ parents, Linda Bergh, Marianne and Dennis Dietzel will be present and read their parts. Linda and Marianne are founding members of MTN.

MTN March
All MTN events are free and open to the public. Donations from the heart are always welcome and help pay for brochure printing and venue rental.

Accessibility and Parking at the Falcon Heights Church:

  • The meeting is on the main floor, with the entrance to building accessible via sidewalk from the curb.
  • One gender-neutral/accessible bathroom and two single-gender bathrooms available on main floor.
  • There is ample parking in lot across the street, including disability spots.

Plan Ahead!

To help us look ahead, here’s the schedule of MTN Twin Cities events for the rest of the programming year. Each event will get its own post closer to the date, as details become known.

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  • March 9, 2020, 7pm. A Spontaneous Death-Care Community that Emerged after the Tragic Deaths of Two Teenagers: A Reader’s Theater with the Girls’ Parents.  Location TBD
  • POSTPONED. Holding Space for Loving, Dying, and Letting Go (Amy Wright Glenn’s work).   Location TBD
  • TBD. How MTN volunteers support people without supportive family or community who want home after-death care. Location TBD
  • TBD. Death-Care Planning, Advance Directives, Talking to Your Family & Friends.  Location TBD

 

February Event: Amy’s Story: Life, Love, Loss–Documentary and Discussion

The February MTN Twin Cities meeting will take place:

Tuesday, February 11, 2020
7:00-9:00 PM
Springhouse Ministry Center
610 W 28th St
(click for map)
Minneapolis, MN 55408

Join us for a the first public showing of Amy’s Story, a documentary about the life of Amy Van Meter–a powerful activist, mediator and listener-of-the-heart–who lived with MS and chose her own death. This film explores the interweaving of love and loss, power and the painful grappling with deciding how and when to die. Filled with heart-breaking choices and deep love and honesty, the film raises faithful questions that invite us all into a conversation about what it means to live life to the fullest, when to choose death and how to do it with love and honor.

Amy close up in chair

This event is co-sponsored by MTN  and The Center for Sustainable Justice and will include a viewing of the film, a discussion with Amy’s family and members of her chosen family and time for refreshments and conversation.

Deepest gratitude go to Angela Jimenez Photography and Melinda Bekker for the creation of this extraordinary film.

Venue accessibility information:

  • The event will be in the Garden Sanctuary. There are both stairs and an elevator. The elevator is about 6-10 feet from the door and then the Garden Sanctuary is about 20 feet from the elevator.
  • SpringHouse has one all-gender/accessible restroom next to the Garden Sanctuary and 2 single-gender restrooms with several stalls (one of which is accessible with a grab bar– men’s has a grab bar on the right, women’s on the left). There are also 2 more all-gender restrooms upstairs.
  • Some of the lights in the space are adjustable, and some are on-off.
  • Traffic noises are not audible in the space. There is a blower for the furnace but it isn’t loud.
  • Scented candles are sometimes used in the space. SpringHouse can remove any scented candles but there may have been some in the past.
Transit and parking info for this meeting:
  • MTN encourages carpooling whenever possible. Here’s the RickyRides carpooling page: http://www.rickyrides.com/mtn-twin-cities-february-meeting
  • SpringHouse Ministry Center is served by several major bus lines. MetroTransit Trip Planner: https://www.metrotransit.org/
  • Parking at the venue: SpringHouse Ministry Center has about 15 spaces in the parking lot that is shared with World Street Kitchen (accessed off of Lyndale or 28th Street) folks should park in spaces labeled for SpringHouse parking (there are some spaces that are for the Greenleaf apartment residents only or World Street Kitchen only). Also, there is street parking on 28th Street and Garfield Ave.

Local Event: End of Life: Live and Unscripted!

Information on a local, non-MTN event:

End of Life: Live and Unscripted! 
Feb 19, 2020, 7:00PM to 9:00PM
University of Minnesota Continuing Education and Conference Center
1890 Buford Avenue (click for map)
St. Paul, MN, 55108

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