Minnesota Threshold Network – Twin Cities
Ellen Hufschmidt, MA, chaplain and hospice grief counselor,
and Kyoko Katayama, PhD, LICSW
Tuesday, November 14, 5:30 -7:30pm
The Community Gathering Space at 514 Lowry Ave NE
(Adjacent to Carma Coffee Shop)
Did you know that
- when a loved one dies, family and friends can care for the deceased and hold the visitation and ceremony at home?
- a deceased person is not unsanitary or unsafe to the living or to the environment
- embalming is not legally required
- green burials are available in Minnesota
This event is FREE and open to all. Please join us and learn about your options.
Until every Minnesotan is informed–Make it known; it can happen at home.
- What direction is MTN Twin Cities moving in?
- What is our focus for the upcoming programming year?
- What truly feeds our passion for this work and feeds the work in turn?
- What does our leadership structure look like now, and is that the best way for it to be?
Hi, all. Eli here with a list of books, articles, films, podcasts, and ideas shared at the September Excitement Swap!
This year we heard so many amazing suggestions, in so many different media, that I’ve broken them into categories. Entries are arranged alphabetically by title (my apologies to librarians and library-lovers). When possible, I have included the sharer’s name and any commentary they offered on the work. Caveat lector: I am but one fallible mortal who was trying to keep up with a delightfully lively discussion, so there’s a very real possibility that I missed things. If you see errors or omissions, please let me know!
MTN Twin Cities Meeting, September 19, 2017
Book, Article, and Idea Share
Anne Murphy’s home (thank you, Anne)
Notes taken by Eli
Opening: “Epitaph” by Merritt Malloy
- Allison’s Gift, Pat Hogan. Tells the story of the death of Alison Sanders, daughter of Beth Knox, one of the early pioneers of the family-directed death movement. (Nancy)
- A Bridge for Grandma, Carol McCormick, illus. Marie Olofsdotter. Children’s book about a young girl who has a near-death experience in the hospital and meets her dead grandmother. (Nancy)
- Caring for the Dying, Henry Fersko-Weiss (founder of The International End of Life Doula Association [INELDA]) (Wendy)
- Dying: A Memoir, Cory Taylor. A personal looks at the end of life. (Wendy)
- The End of Life Advisor, Susan Dolan & Audrey Vizzard. Dolan and Vizzard are a mother-daughter hospice team. The book focuses on practical matters regarding death. (Nancy)
- Entering the Healing Ground: Grief, Ritual and the Soul of the World, Francis Weller. Personal grief and planetary grief. (Anne M)
- Extreme Measures, Jessica Nutik Zitter (Karen G)
- Final Gifts, Maggie Callanan and Patricia Kelley (Karen G)
- The Five Invitations, Frank Ostaseski. One of the founders of the Zen hospice movement. Looks at death for all, not just the “actively” dying. (Kyoko)
- From Here to Eternity, Caitlin Doughty (October release) (Cindy)
- The Grace in Dying, Kathleen Dowling Singh (Ellen)
- The Immortal Life of Henrietta Lacks, Rebecca Skloot
- Laughing in a Waterfall, Marianne Dietzel. This book is gripping. The way the school community come together for the home vigil is amazing. Marianne explores every dimension of why that’s so powerful. (Nancy)
- Live Consciously, Dying Gracefully, Nancy Manahan & Beck Bohan. The story of the death and dying of Diane Manahan. (Nancy)
- The Long Goodbye, Megan O’Rourke. Poetry about her mother’s death from colon cancer (Elizabeth)
- Preparing to Die: Practical Advice and Spiritual Wisdom from the Tibetan Buddhist Tradition, Andrew Holecek (Kyoko)
- The Smell of Rain on Dust: Grief and Praise. Martín Prechtel. (Anne M)
- What Really Matters: 7 Lessons for Living from the Stories of the Dying, Karen Wyatt
- When Breath Becomes Air, Paul Kalanithi. Neurosurgeon with lung cancer chronicles his journey toward death. (Kyoko)
PODCASTS and OTHER AUDIO
- End of Life University podcast (Karen G)
- On Being interview with Craig Minowa from Cloud Cult
- Terrible, Thanks for Asking. Nora McInerny. McInerny will be speaking at the Fitz in November
- What Has to Die in Order to Meet Fear and Hatred With Love? A talk given by Kyoko Katayama at Common Ground Meditation Center
Wooden Overcoats. For a complete change of pace, this comic serial fiction podcast charts the rivalry between two funeral homes in a tiny village on a tiny island in the English Channel. (Eli)
- The Man Who Buries Everyone. Funeral director Peter Stefan cares for the bodies no one else wants. (Eli)
- ‘Pagan Elements’ Concern Over Green Burial Plan in Down. Plans for Northern Ireland’s first green burial cemetery face neighbor concerns that a green burial seems too “Pagan.” (Eli)
- The Most Excellent Dying of Theodore Jack Heckelman (documentary by Nancy Jewel Poer). Jack’s death and vigil were so transformative for so many people. Ask Linda Bergh if you’d like a copy. (Nancy)
- Speaking of Dying (Wendy)
- Stay With Me Awhile Mary Johnson & Barbara Means Fraser. Rochester Civic in February. Karen G. will be coordinating an MTN group trip to this event.
- What is the connection between mainstream fear of/separation from death and the hatred, violence, and oppression we are living in now? (Eli)
- Can we meet hatred with love? How? (originally posed by Carolyn Laine; relayed by Eli)
- Are people being given the choice of not having morphine and experiencing the pain at end of life? (Marianne)
- Palliative and sedation. Are we as healthcare agents and other end-of-life tenders listening well enough to advocate for what the dying person truly wants? (Kathy)
- Convening: An Artful Death at MIA, October 29. Featuring Caitlin Doughty, Kyoko Katayama, and others. (Cindy)
- MCDES conference on Medical Aid in Dying (MAiD) is this Friday, September 29.
- The Sacred Art of Living and Dying is a two-year program that consists of four two-day sessions (Fr. & Sa) A new session starts in November in St. Cloud.
MISCELLANEOUS NOTES & ANNOUNCEMENTS
- Kyoko is creating a chapbook based on her experiences with death, grief, and healing in the last months of her husband’s life. She will share more information when it’s available.
- Karen G. has started giving talks on facing our mortality. The next one is at Sunday, November 19, 1-5 p.m., at Wellsprings Farm in Annandale. Contact Karen for more information.
Join MTN Twin Cities for our annual reading information exchange: with a twist. Bring a book, article, or burning question that’s got you fired up and thinking about death and dying issues in new ways, even if it’s not directly related (though of course we love hearing about those, too). For instance, some questions we’ve been asking include: How do we fight hate with love? How might our culture’s fear and avoidance of death feed the acts of hate and oppression that have recently been committed in this country, and what can we do to change it?
We’ll each talk briefly about our materials and ideas and then use all of that excitement to help determine MTN TC’s direction for the coming year.
Our passions pull us in many directions. We embrace that complexity and look forward to seeing where it leads us.
The meeting will be held on Tuesday, September 19, 2017, at 7:00 pm. We will meet at the home of Anne Murphy, 287 Mount Curve Blvd, St. Paul 55105. MTN TC meetings are free and open to the public.
Hi, all. Due to predictions of inclement weather this evening, we have decided to postpone the June forum for one week. The event will now take place on Tuesday, June 20, 2017, 7:00 pm, at Prairie Oaks Memorial Eco Garden. Please see the original event post for full event details, including details directions to Prairie Oaks.
Thank you for your understanding, and stay safe this evening.
We hope you can attend our annual June public forum, this year focusing on green burial. Join us for a mock graveside service and green burial; learn more about current options and regulations around green burial; share stories and ideas.
The directions on Google Maps are accurate for Prairie Oaks Memorial Eco Gardens, 8225 Argenta Trail, Inver Grove Heights, 55077.
A couple of helpful hints:
- When driving from the Twin Cities on Hwy 55E, remember to turn RIGHT onto Argenta Trail from 55. (The signage there is misleading.) Only .3 miles after turning onto Argenta, folks turn LEFT to stay on Argenta Trail. (If you miss this turn and go straight, the road turns into Yankee Doodle.)
- After this turn, drive .3 miles and Argenta curves to the right. Soon after the curve, turn right onto Auburn Path, which is the access road to Prairie Oaks Memorial Eco Gardens.
- There is NOT a permanent sign indicating the entrance to Prairie Oaks but you will see a Truck Repair and Equipment business at the entrance.
- MTN will mark the entrance to Prairie Oaks with a bright sign!!