November MTN Event: Passion, Wisdom, Community

The next Minnesota Threshold Network Twin Cities meeting, Passion, Wisdom, Community, will be held on

Tuesday, November 12, 2019
7:00 PM
at
St. Mary’s Episcopal Church
1895 Laurel Ave, St. Paul MN 55104 (click for map)

NHFA Team
Some of the MTN members who attended the NHFA conference in October, along with our decorated mock vigil coffin. Photo by Barbara McAfee.

Please join MTN for a recap and lively discussion on the National Home Funeral Alliance biennial national conference, which was held this October in Minnesota. Some of the conference participants and presenters will report on our experiences, including the mock vigil room, the Saturday night art share, heart connections, and more. We’ll share patterns we noticed, things we’re excited about, and actions we’re inspired to take next.

Participants may include:

  • Anne Murphy
  • Cat Campion
  • Cindy Vernosky
  • Ellen Hufschmidt
  • Eli Effinger-Weintraub
  • Karen Greer
  • Kyoko Katayama
  • Laurel Riedel
  • Linda Bergh
  • Linda Butler
  • Syneva Barrett
  • …and you!

St. Mary’s has both single- and all-gender restrooms and an elevator. All Minnesota Threshold Network meetings are free and open to the public; we gratefully accept donations to help pay for meeting spaces. Please feel free to contact us with questions.

Upcoming Conference: MN Network of Hospice & Palliative Care (MNHPC)

An MTN member alerted us to this upcoming event in Bloomington, MN, that might be of interest to some MTN members:

Ira Byock invitation

[IMAGE TEXT: Minnesota Network of Hospice & Palliative Care invites you to join us for a very special evening

What mortality can teach us about living
with Ira Byock, MD
Monday April 9
Reception 6:00
Program 7:00-8:30
Tickets $35

Dr. Byock is the founder and Chief Medical Officer for the Institute for Human Caring. He is a practicing physician, educator, and advocate for whole person care. He is also author of three books, including The Four Things that Matter Most, a book that has reshaped how many people view the end of life experience. Dr. Byock will share insights from his three decades of serving patients.

he brings a hopeful, inspiring message of living lives of gratitude, forgiveness, and love and how an awareness of our own mortality can help us to lead to finding fulfillment and joy in life.

we hope you’ll join us for this very special evening. Kairos Alive! will provide music and dance, and refreshments will be available. It is sure to be an inspiring, uplifting event.

Visit www/mnhpc.org for more information]

MTN at MNHP conference

The Minnesota Threshold Network was a presence at the Minnesota Hospice and Palliative Care conference, April 19-21 in Bloomington. MTN shared an exhibitor table with the Funeral Consumers’ Alliance of Minnesota, with Anne Murphy and Heather Ferguson volunteer staffing for MTN and Jody Bystrum for FCA. Anne, Heather, and Jody spoke with many nurses, social workers, and volunteers and encouraged them to get to know utilize our organizations as a resource.  Anne reports that it was a very receptive crowd, and many of them commented that they are noticing that people are wanting to find ways to honor and celebrate life in new ways.

Our thanks to Anne and Heather for staffing the table, to FCA for the table-sharing arrangement, and to everyone who stopped by to talk about this important work.

 

partnering to share knowledge and resources!
Jody Bystrum and Anne Murphy at the MNHP conference.

Correction 5/8/15: our table was staffed by Anne Murphy and Heather Ferguson! Thanks, Heather.

MTN “Caring for Our Own” workshop largest ever

Twenty people attended the all-day “Caring for Our Own” workshop on November 22, taught by three Minnesota Threshold Network home funeral guides. In MTN’s six years of offering after-death care workshops, this was the largest!

After check-ins, the morning began with guided rememberings of death in our lives, as children and as adults. Anne Murphy presented a brief history of after-death care in the US. Linda Bergh guided the group in becoming more aware of the specialness of this sacred time in the hours and days after a beloved has died. Kyoko Katayama shared the poignant story of her husband’s death, care, and home vigil. 

Anne led the afternoon session by demonstrating step-by-step practical care of the body, with Linda and Kyoko adding stories to illustrate the uniqueness of each experience, as well as the unifying theme of bringing comfort and meaning to families.  Many connections were made as the participants opened to this powerful topic and became a community for the day.

Workshop participants prepare a gracious volunteer “corpse” for disposition. Beautiful cloths and flowers offer one last chance to show love and care for our beloved dead.

It was a day of soul care as well as body care. As one person wrote on the evaluation, “I got a great sense of what after-death body care really is.”  Another participant commented, “The stories made the day’s experience so authentic.”  Another said, “I’m going home and writing out what I would like done for me when I die.”
 
Several people have asked when MTN will offer another workshop. Fortunately the presenters enjoyed working together and found it a good mix of backgrounds, experience, and interest. It’s likely they’ll be doing another workshop. The topics most requested on the evaluation forms were:

  • Green burials
  • Being with the dying
  • Minnesota laws (Come to the Dec. 9 MTN meeting for this!)
  • Facing our mortality
  • Home vigils