Reflections from Reader’s Theater

Reflections on Minnesota Threshold Network Meeting of March 9, 2020,

Reader’s Theater of A Death Caring Community…

Over 65 people and 18 readers filled the space at Falcon Heights United Church of Christ.  The Reader’s Theater of A Death Caring Community was a response to the accidental deaths of two teens. Created for a national conference in 2019, this was the first presentation in Minnesota.

BACKGROUND for those not at the meeting:

Dennis Dietzel: “When Nina (our daughter) and Kirsten (Lindas daughter) were killed  in an automobile accident and Linda was severely injured, we were so fortunate that the community where the accident occurred had experience with a home vigil. When that was offered as a possibility, we knew immediately it was the right thing. For us and so many others it provided a beginning to our grief journey that was surrounded by love and beauty, and provided a touchstone which has allowed us to give back to others over the years. Just as for birth, the time of death is too precious to give over to others if it is possible for us to claim it for ourselves and our loved ones who have crossed the threshold.”

Linda Bergh: When Marianne and Dennis and I were asked to share our experience     for a national conference, we contacted people in NY (and family from Minnesota) and asked them to write their story. Then we created a script and shared it, with people reading their own parts. It was presented at Sacred Gateway Conference on Conscious Dying and After Death Care, and the Journey Beyond in May 2019 for 150 people in Harlemville, NY, where the accident happened in 1996.

This year MTN supported us in sharing this same script – but with readers from Minnesota. All of the readers knew the Dietzel and Bergh families at the time of the accident.

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Readers and attendees of the reader’s theater event

REFLECTIONS

From Ann, attendee: I could see through the story that Kirsten and Nina had laid a foundation, scattered seeds, and ignited love in the community that then became shelter for their passing and solace for their MN families.  . . . . I could feel that love when one reader described the dark road and four broken-hearted travelers, coming upon the house with lights, filled with love and a safe place to weep and be with Nina and Kirsten in death.

From Karen, MTN member/leader: I saw Monday evening as a great undertaking and a Celebration of the Story of 1996 for the three of you parents, your daughters and sons and your communities. Thanks so much for your “eloquent authenticity” in sharing the pain and the joy and connectedness that you all experienced.   I loved the music as a beautiful expression of the “pauses” that we all need to take in life.  You did a wonderful job on the saxophone, piano and lyre.

Other comments

“Community building in action.” 

“I do hope you’ll be able to share your story at other places in the future.”

“I came away with one sentence: “Love is greater than loss.”

From Linda Bergh: What a remarkable evening, I am grateful for this conscious dying work and a community open to experiencing our learnings about how love is always here, even in the most challenging moments. After the reading last night, we talked about community, and I realized this morning that the event itself was an expression of community. Having the courage to be present to each others stories builds connection, so that we can listen when our own lives ask us to step up.

With the music of the saxophone and piano still ringing deep inside, I want to thank those who read, those who came, and those who were with us in spirit. 

Here is a segment from Kirsten and Nina’s dear friend who was 15 when the accident happened:

Hours and hours of travel – Warm welcoming arms of comfort. The hospital bed with Linda curled up in shock    Then – Arriving where I did not want to be ……  

A living room I had been in just a few weeks earlier when I had visited Kirsten before I left for school in France. I was afraid to go in. Yet in all the awfulness of the moment of seeing Kirsten and Ninas bodies, what I found was a welcoming warm space. Grief and shock were everywhere in the room, but it was not a scary place. This community of people I hardly knew had created a space where I felt welcomed and simply allowed to be with my friends’ bodies with no expectations. I felt so grateful. Food, candles, gentle quiet, music, warm hugs, crying together.

With the sudden nature of these deaths, the vigil gave me the space and time to say good-bye and be with Kirsten and Ninas spirits. I spent hours just being there next to the wooden coffins in the middle of the living room. I stroked their hair, sang to them, talked to them. I was made to feel that this was normal and okay, that grieving and death can be part of community life. I believe my grief process was greatly impacted by the way this community held space for the deaths of my dear friends.

Local Event: End of Life: Live and Unscripted!

Information on a local, non-MTN event:

End of Life: Live and Unscripted! 
Feb 19, 2020, 7:00PM to 9:00PM
University of Minnesota Continuing Education and Conference Center
1890 Buford Avenue (click for map)
St. Paul, MN, 55108

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MTN Regional Gathering Saturday, October 6

Minnesota Threshold Network is delighted to host our third regional gathering of home funeral advocates on October 6.

OPEN TO ALL – PLEASE JOIN US

We invite representation from Minnesota, Wisconsin, and Iowa to share visions, challenges, and plans. We look forward to strengthening our regional connections and mission.

Also, the National Home Funeral Alliance is holding its national conference in Minnesota next year (Oct. 4-6, 2019), and we want the Midwest to be a strong presence there. Plans will be shared.

The gathering will be held Saturday October 6, from 10am to 3pm, at the home of Linda Bergh, 4315 Xerxes Ave. S. Mpls. (click for map). 612 325 2775. Please bring a potluck item to share!

RSVP to Linda at hellolindabergh @ gmail.com

2016 Regional Gathering Attendees
Oct. 2016 regional gathering at Linda Bergh’s home with seventeen home funeral advocates/educators from nine towns and three states

Local Event (non-MTN): Walking with Death

Upcoming local event hosted by Deva Nation and Conscious Dying Institute:

Walking with Death: Conscious Dying Practices for Compassion & Transformation

Friday, July 13, 2018, 6:00PM – 9:00PM
Center for Intuitive Living
5356 Chicago Ave S
Minneapolis, MN 55417-1734
COST: $35

Join us for an evening with Echo Bodine & Tarron Estes, founder of Conscious Dying Institute. This evening event introduces us to Conscious Dying’s sacred, healing practices for the caring of self and others during the end of life journey, and to Echo Bodine’s exploration of the soul’s perspective on consciousness that can be accessed before, during, and after death.

For more information, visit DevaNation.com

This event below features an intro to Conscious Dying Institute’s 3-day Conscious Dying Training in Mankato, September 6-8 at Sibley Park Pavilion. This Conscious Dying Training In Mankato will also double as Phase I of the Sacred Passage End of Life Doula Certificate. Phase II of the EOL Doula Certificate will be offered November 27-Dec 2 at a Buddhist Retreat Center on a lake north of Mankato. CDI is planning to run these to two events every year; the 3-day community event in the Spring (as a stand-alone or as a prerequisite to EOL doula certification) and the 5-day doula certification in late summer. For more information on this training, call 303-440-8018 or email info@consciousdyinginstitute.com.

Walking With Death

 

June Forum: Dying to Know: conversations about the end of life

The Minnesota Threshold Network invites you to our annual June Forum

Dying to Know: Conversations about Choices at the End-of-Life

open to friends, families, groups of all ages to explore together the choices around end-of-life
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The Concept:

Participate in lively conversations about death and after death arrangements for yourself and/or loved ones.

Questions such as “What would your ideal death look like?” “Who would be there?” “How would I like to be honored after I die” and many more… Have the conversation you have wanted to have around death and dying

St. Clements Episcopal Church, Parish Hall

901 Portland Avenue

Saint Paul, MN 55104

Tuesday, June 5th

7-8:30pm

Free and open to all. Donation of the heart are welcomed

Interested? RSVP to Ellen Hufschmidt at ritesofchange@gmail.com

Twin Cities May Event: Death Over Dinner

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What is Death Over Dinner? It is a chance to gather in a familiar setting to talk with welcoming people about death, a discussion that most people try to avoid.

Death Over Dinner is an opportunity to have that difficult yet crucial end-of-life conversation we often tiptoe around. While sharing a meal together, groups will have a chance to ponder and discuss questions such as, “What was your first experience of death like?” or, “If you had a choice, where would you die?”

Food and beverage will be provided.

Please join us for an enlightening discussion!

Tuesday, May 1, 2018
6:00-8:00 PM
Mount Olivet Lutheran Church of Plymouth
(Fireside Room)
12235 Old Rockford Road
Plymouth, MN 55411

Twin Cities Networking Event

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MTN Twin Cities will host a Deathwork/Network night in January. We call out to death doulas, funeral celebrants, coffin-makers, and anyone else who is working, as either a career or a passion, in the fields of conscious dying, family-directed death care, and green disposition, to meet others and share resources and knowledge.
 
We are stronger together.
Meeting details:
Tuesday, January 16, 2018, 7-9 pm
at the home of Marianne Dietzel
All MTN meetings are free and open to the public. Donations of the heart accepted.