Notes from the Regional Gathering

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Regional gathering attendees. Photo by Linda Bergh

On Saturday, October 6, 2018, the MTN Twin Cities hosted our third regional gathering. The event brought together people from throughout Minnesota and Wisconsin to discuss what’s going on in our communities around conscious dying, family-directed after-death care, and green burial. The meeting was held at the home of Linda Bergh. Nineteen people attended.

In the morning, each group checked into to tell us all about what they’ve been up to. Here are some general notes from those reports, although no notes can ever capture the true richness of experience represented in that room.

Southeast Minnesota Threshold Network (Rochester area; Deah reporting)

  • Feeling of dwindling. Would like thoughts on how to grow the network and do work in the community.
  • Series of meetings to get to know each other by talking about what each person wants for their own death.
  • Decorated a “coffin” and had each person lie in it. Others talked about what they would miss about the “dead” person
  • Trainings in body-washing and supporting grieving families
  • Sunday, November 4: death open mic in Rochester
  • Elephant in the Room is a local collaboration of hospice, library, medical society, SE MTN, & many others who have worked together for several years. They’re planning a month of death-related events in November called Community Reflections of Living & Dying. Kickoff on Thursday, November 1.
  • Question: how can groups support each other?
  • Facebook: SE Minnesota Threshold Network, Elephant In the Room Network – end of life planning

 

Threshold Care Circle (Viroqua, WI; Liz reporting)

  • Groups size has ebbed and flowed. In a “small” phase right now.
  • No green cemetery in the area; in Vernon county, people can bury on their own land.
  • People are now contacting them for help with both personal and policy questions. Helping get laws changed/helping people understand the law in their area
  • Group has diversified, which has allowed them to offer different kinds of workshops
  • It may seem like not much is happening, but you never know what the impact has been and how far the ripples have gone out
  • Question: when we have materials, how do we most effectively get them where they need to be?
  • Facebook: Threshold Care Circle

 

Tabooyah (Menomonie, WI; Terri reporting)

  • Small core group
  • See themselves as a resource group
  • Name comes from “taboo” + “booyah” (how cool is that?)
  • Rochelle Martin TED Talk, “Let’s Talk About Death
  • Had a table at local farmer’s market to Tell your Story on end of life
  • Investigated and learned that  residents of their county have a choice to be buried on homestead property. Easements may be required if the land is subsequently sold.
  • A lot of personal growth and commitment to the work
  • This work happens all the time. People die whenever they do; they don’t wait for a convenient time
  • Want to do more work in their community. Want to get ideas and energy around what they’re doing.
  • Question: how can groups offer each other energy and support?
  • Email address: tabooyahwi@gmail.com

 

Duluth, MN (Dana reporting)

  • Dana is new to this and very excited.

 

Mankato, MN (Mary Ann reporting)

  • Deva Nation. Nonprofit linked to an international movement of compassionate communities. A public health movement.
  • US is the only country with a for-profit healthcare system, which is why we don’t have any compassionate communities for end-of-life.
  • Public Health Palliative Care International
  • Want to create a compassionate town council. Each sector comes forward with policies to create a town charter that will be reviewed each year.
  • One Bright Star: nonprofit for families who have had a child die.
  • The vision: when anyone in the community is dying, caring, or grieving, we will all know what to do.
  • Question: how do we get Mary Ann some more people?!?
  • Birth, Breath, and Death, Amy Wright Glenn

 

 

Mind-Body Solutions (Minnetonka; Catherine reporting)

 

MTN Twin Cities (Linda, Karen, and others reporting)

  • Stay With Me Awhile, Mary Johnson and Barbara Means Frasier. New thirty-minute version on December 11 at Spirit of St. Stephen’s Catholic Community
  • Opening up the leadership team, restructuring the leadership team, reconsidering the mission
  • Question: how does leadership move into this new time with authenticity? How to do organization differently?
  • Question: how to bring younger people into this conversation?
  • Question: how to balance people who do this as a side passion with people who are doing it as a job and need to make money from it?
  • Started a mentoring framework: one person who’s been doing this for a while partners with one new person for each meeting

 

General Thoughts

After lunch, attendees held a planning discussion regarding the National Home Funeral Alliance 2019 national conference, which will be held in Chaska, Minnesota from October 4-6, 2019. Anyone who’s interested in helping plan and/or volunteer during this event is asked to contact Mary Ann Boe at maryann @ devanation . com

We are grateful to everyone who made the trek to this gathering, and to Linda for hosting. Let’s keep the ideas and enthusiasm flowing between us.

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Regional gathering attendees. Photo by Ellen Hufschmidt
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February 2016 Link Round-Up

The Winter 2016 newsletter of the Funeral Consumers Alliance of Minnesota is now available on their website.  To read it, go to the FCA of MN home page.

FCA

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Rochester

From the Rochester Area Chapter of the Minnesota Threshold Network:

All welcome! Free Will Donation 

You’ve lived a green life – but did you know it is now possible to carry your environmentally-conscious living into your end of life plans?  Green burial is a natural alternative to resource-intensive conventional burial and cremation. Through an informational presentation, video clips of other’s experiences and discussion, we will explore the topic of green burial. Learn the definition, benefits and legalities of green burial, as well as what local resources are available to support your choice to die green

February 16, 2016, 6:30-8:30pm, Dying to be Green, Assisi Heights Spirituality Center, 1001 14th St.NW, Rochester, MNDefinition, benefits, and legalities of green burial, as well as local resources available to support the choice to die green. Presented by the Rochester Area Chapter of the MTN. To register call (507) 280-2195.

Thanks to Deah Kinion, the Rochester Chapter now has a presence on Face Book.  It is a public page, so you don’t have to be a member of FB to access it.  Please “like” it and then invite all your friends to like it too.   Here is the link:

https://www.facebook.com/RochesterChapterMNThresholdNetwork/?fref=ts

 

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Late Life: A Conversation with Atul Gawande 

http://video.tpt.org/video/2365637252/?utm_source=Late+Life%3A+A+Conversation+with+Atul+Gawande&utm_campaign=Late+Life%3A+A+Conversation+with+Atul+Gawande+Airs+on+TPT+Starting+This+Weekend!%3A+&utm_medium=email

Episode: Dr. Atul Gawande, author of “Being Mortal,” shares his vision of healthcare that helps people live well to the end.

Upcoming Broadcast Dates:

  • Sunday, Feb 7| 1:00 a.m. CT (channel: TPTMN)
  • Sunday, Feb 7| 7:00 a.m. CT (channel: TPTMN)
  • Sunday, Feb 7| 1:00 p.m. CT (channel: TPTMN)”

 

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The Mary Hanson Show: Special Mini-Series for Black History Month, tpt 2-2, the MN Channel, Mondays at 10AM, 4 PM, 10 PM and 4 AM

 March 21 – Preparing for End of Life Healthcare Decisions – Guest:  Anne Elizabeth Denny, Consultant, speaker and author of My Voice, My Choice

Rochester Chapter Event November 1: Death & Dessert

tastier than death!
Photo by Kimberly Vardeman via Wikimedia Commons under Creative Commons license.

This is a gathering unlike anything you’ve experienced: cider, dessert, and honest conversation about death and dying. Death isn’t the easiest topic, so we want you to feel like you’re among friends – welcome, relaxed, safe. Let’s have a conversation.

Sunday, Nov. 1 from 4 – 6 PM

People’s Food Co-op, 519 1st Ave. SW, Rochester, MN

Everyone has questions and opinions about death and dying, but we rarely get a chance to share them. We want to give you that chance. This is not an educational program or a grief support group. We don’t subscribe to a particular belief system, and we aren’t selling anything. Death & Dessert is an opportunity to explore our thoughts and feelings about our own mortality and our experiences around the loss of loved ones, in the distant or recent past. Viewing death as a natural part of the life cycle lessens our fear of it and frees us to live more fully and joyfully right now. When you leave Death & Dessert, we want you to feel more comfortable with death and more excited about life.

Space is limited; please RSVP by calling 289-1199, by noon, Friday Oct. 30.

 

“If you can begin to see death as an invisible, but friendly, companion on your life’s journey … then you can learn to live your life rather than simply passing through it.”

— Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, ‘Death and the Final Stage of Growth’