What is Death Over Dinner? It is a chance to gather in a familiar setting to talk with welcoming people about death, a discussion that most people try to avoid.
Death Over Dinner is an opportunity to have that difficult yet crucial end-of-life conversation we often tiptoe around. While sharing a meal together, groups will have a chance to ponder and discuss questions such as, “What was your first experience of death like?” or, “If you had a choice, where would you die?”
Food and beverage will be provided.
Please join us for an enlightening discussion!
Tuesday, May 1, 2018
Mount Olivet Lutheran Church of Plymouth
12235 Old Rockford Road
Plymouth, MN 55411
Wednesday, April 11, 2018, 7:30-9:30 PM
85 6th St N, Minneapolis, MN 55403
Hear and share stories of how our experiences with home vigils, family-directed death care, and green disposition have touched our lives. The April MTN Twin Cities event is a storytelling night cohosted by Word Sprout
A few MTN members will come with prepared stories. An open mic time will follow. You’re invited to bring your five-minute story of your experiences as a death doula, vigil-sitter, green-burier, or other ways death has touched your life.
MTN Twin Cities will host a Deathwork/Network night in January. We call out to death doulas, funeral celebrants, coffin-makers, and anyone else who is working, as either a career or a passion, in the fields of conscious dying, family-directed death care, and green disposition, to meet others and share resources and knowledge.
We are stronger together.
Tuesday, January 16, 2018, 7-9 pm
at the home of Marianne Dietzel
All MTN meetings are free and open to the public. Donations of the heart accepted.
Katelyn LaGrega’s 2017 film, “The Art of Natural Death Care,” from the Sophia Center in North Carolina, shows families caring for their loved ones after death. The 27-minute documentary, which was presented at the 2017 National Home Funeral Alliance conference, includes clips of MTN’s Linda Bergh.
The meeting will be held on Tuesday, December 5, at 7:00 PM at 21 E Rustic Lodge, Minneapolis, MN 55419.
All MTN Events are free and open to the public. Donations of the heart accepted.
Minnesota Threshold Network – Twin Cities
Ellen Hufschmidt, MA, chaplain and hospice grief counselor,
and Kyoko Katayama, PhD, LICSW
Tuesday, November 14, 5:30 -7:30pm
The Community Gathering Space at 514 Lowry Ave NE
(Adjacent to Carma Coffee Shop)
Did you know that
- when a loved one dies, family and friends can care for the deceased and hold the visitation and ceremony at home?
- a deceased person is not unsanitary or unsafe to the living or to the environment
- embalming is not legally required
- green burials are available in Minnesota
This event is FREE and open to all. Please join us and learn about your options.
Until every Minnesotan is informed–Make it known; it can happen at home.
- What direction is MTN Twin Cities moving in?
- What is our focus for the upcoming programming year?
- What truly feeds our passion for this work and feeds the work in turn?
- What does our leadership structure look like now, and is that the best way for it to be?
We invite you to join us in examining these questions and more at an open retreat and planning meeting. Based on input from our August core team meeting and the September idea exchange, we will discuss what’s on the group’s horizon, plan the next few meetings, and generally get to know each other and our paths a little better.
All Minnesota Threshold Network meetings are free and open to the public. Donations of the heart accepted.
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Hi, all. Eli here with a list of books, articles, films, podcasts, and ideas shared at the September Excitement Swap!
This year we heard so many amazing suggestions, in so many different media, that I’ve broken them into categories. Entries are arranged alphabetically by title (my apologies to librarians and library-lovers). When possible, I have included the sharer’s name and any commentary they offered on the work. Caveat lector: I am but one fallible mortal who was trying to keep up with a delightfully lively discussion, so there’s a very real possibility that I missed things. If you see errors or omissions, please let me know!
MTN Twin Cities Meeting, September 19, 2017
Book, Article, and Idea Share
Anne Murphy’s home (thank you, Anne)
Notes taken by Eli
Opening: “Epitaph” by Merritt Malloy
- Allison’s Gift, Pat Hogan. Tells the story of the death of Alison Sanders, daughter of Beth Knox, one of the early pioneers of the family-directed death movement. (Nancy)
- A Bridge for Grandma, Carol McCormick, illus. Marie Olofsdotter. Children’s book about a young girl who has a near-death experience in the hospital and meets her dead grandmother. (Nancy)
- Caring for the Dying, Henry Fersko-Weiss (founder of The International End of Life Doula Association [INELDA]) (Wendy)
- Dying: A Memoir, Cory Taylor. A personal looks at the end of life. (Wendy)
- The End of Life Advisor, Susan Dolan & Audrey Vizzard. Dolan and Vizzard are a mother-daughter hospice team. The book focuses on practical matters regarding death. (Nancy)
- Entering the Healing Ground: Grief, Ritual and the Soul of the World, Francis Weller. Personal grief and planetary grief. (Anne M)
- Extreme Measures, Jessica Nutik Zitter (Karen G)
- Final Gifts, Maggie Callanan and Patricia Kelley (Karen G)
- The Five Invitations, Frank Ostaseski. One of the founders of the Zen hospice movement. Looks at death for all, not just the “actively” dying. (Kyoko)
- From Here to Eternity, Caitlin Doughty (October release) (Cindy)
- The Grace in Dying, Kathleen Dowling Singh (Ellen)
- The Immortal Life of Henrietta Lacks, Rebecca Skloot
- Laughing in a Waterfall, Marianne Dietzel. This book is gripping. The way the school community come together for the home vigil is amazing. Marianne explores every dimension of why that’s so powerful. (Nancy)
- Live Consciously, Dying Gracefully, Nancy Manahan & Beck Bohan. The story of the death and dying of Diane Manahan. (Nancy)
- The Long Goodbye, Megan O’Rourke. Poetry about her mother’s death from colon cancer (Elizabeth)
- Preparing to Die: Practical Advice and Spiritual Wisdom from the Tibetan Buddhist Tradition, Andrew Holecek (Kyoko)
- The Smell of Rain on Dust: Grief and Praise. Martín Prechtel. (Anne M)
- What Really Matters: 7 Lessons for Living from the Stories of the Dying, Karen Wyatt
- When Breath Becomes Air, Paul Kalanithi. Neurosurgeon with lung cancer chronicles his journey toward death. (Kyoko)
PODCASTS and OTHER AUDIO
- Stay With Me Awhile Mary Johnson & Barbara Means Fraser. Rochester Civic in February. Karen G. will be coordinating an MTN group trip to this event.
- What is the connection between mainstream fear of/separation from death and the hatred, violence, and oppression we are living in now? (Eli)
- Can we meet hatred with love? How? (originally posed by Carolyn Laine; relayed by Eli)
- Are people being given the choice of not having morphine and experiencing the pain at end of life? (Marianne)
- Palliative and sedation. Are we as healthcare agents and other end-of-life tenders listening well enough to advocate for what the dying person truly wants? (Kathy)
MISCELLANEOUS NOTES & ANNOUNCEMENTS
- Kyoko is creating a chapbook based on her experiences with death, grief, and healing in the last months of her husband’s life. She will share more information when it’s available.
- Karen G. has started giving talks on facing our mortality. The next one is at Sunday, November 19, 1-5 p.m., at Wellsprings Farm in Annandale. Contact Karen for more information.