The Vigil Continuum: Caring for Our Loved Ones from Pre-Death

The Minnesota Threshold Network invites you to a free Public Forum

The Vigil Continuum:

Caring for Our Loved Ones from Pre-Death

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Tuesday, June 14, 7:00 pm – 9:00 pm

St. Mary’s Episcopal Church1895 Laurel Ave, St Paul, MN, 55104. Unmetered on-street parking available.

Forum topics include:

  • Holding a vigil in the last days or hours of life

  • Holding an after-death family-directed vigil

  • Legal issues involved with vigils

Featured guests include State Representative Carolyn Laine and former Rochester Mayo chaplain Mary E. Johnson of The Vigil Project.

Twin Cities Meeting May 10: The Arts of Death

Family-directed after-death care offers us the chance to create personalized and deeply meaningful observances for our loved ones who have died. But the idea of creating those observances from the ground up can feel daunting. Through the creation of poetry, music, and visual art, we will explore options for including art in our vigils and funerals and expand our ceremony-creation tool kit.
May 10, 2016, 7pm, at the home Marianne and Dennis Dietzel, 2954 Hamline Ave., Roseville, MN, 651-633-0432. One mile north Hwy. 36. It’s the house on the right with the orange flag on the mailbox.
Coffin shown in PASSING THROUGH OUR HANDS

Twin Cities April Movie Night: Passing Through Our Hands

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Passing Through Our Hands: a home funeral care guide video

We will have a movie night on Tuesday, April 12, 2016, 7 pm, at the home of Kathy Huset, 1811 West Minnehaha Ave., St. Paul (enter through front door, go up two flights of stairs); 651-645-8313. We will be screening Passing Through Our Hands: Home Funeral Care Guide, a documentary on after-death care of the body. Most of us have few opportunities to learn how to care for a body; this short film gives step-by-step instructions on how to do that in a simple, dignified, and loving way.

“Passing Through Our Hands” starts when the person dies and covers how to wash the body, dress and lay out the body, hold a vigil, and move the body into a coffin. It includes a link to guidelines and written instructions in addition to the video training.

If you would like a copy, visit Passing Through Our Hands. Cost is $15.

Twin Cities March Event: Death Over Easy

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Join us for “Death Over Easy,” a community brunch with conversations about death.
Circle around the table for brunch and conversation on a topic that we like to keep under the table. We will listen to each other and share our collective wisdom about death. Through exploring thoughts and feelings, we can more readily move through fears, shed inhibitions, and forge deeper connection with our loved ones.  It can be that easy!
Brunch  Details
DateMarch 5, 2016
Time10-Noon
LocationWalker Community United Methodist Church  
                 3104 16th Avenue South
                 Minneapolis, MN 55407 
                  Walkerchurch.org
Bring: Juice, Breads, Fruit Salad, Green Salads, Eggs
Also bring: Your own tableware (plates, cups, utensils, napkins)
Cost:  Suggested donation of $5 to cover room rental
 
PLEASE RSVP to Anne Murphy 651-964-9128annievmurph@gmail.com or Marianne Dietzel 612-743-2370, mariannemdietzel@gmail.com
 
So that we can have starting places for our shared conversations,  we have selected a couple short, engaging, informative, and inspiring pieces that we encourage you to read, watch, and listen.

Bronnie Ware worked for many years with patients who were in the last three to twelve weeks of their lives. She shares the five most common regrets they shared with her.

Watch:  You only die once. Engage with Grace.Eliza Corporation founder Alexandra Drane delivers a passionate talk about the need to discuss end of life decisions, and how we can approach this topic with grace and dignity. At the heart of this short video is a powerful story of losing a family member to cancer.deathoverdinner.org

Listen:  Breaking the Taboo of Talking About DeathMichael Hebb, founder of deathoverdinner.org, says how we want to die represents the most important and costly conversation Americans aren’t having. He explains how this project gives people the tools to move through these conversations.

February 2016 Link Round-Up

The Winter 2016 newsletter of the Funeral Consumers Alliance of Minnesota is now available on their website.  To read it, go to the FCA of MN home page.

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Rochester

From the Rochester Area Chapter of the Minnesota Threshold Network:

All welcome! Free Will Donation 

You’ve lived a green life – but did you know it is now possible to carry your environmentally-conscious living into your end of life plans?  Green burial is a natural alternative to resource-intensive conventional burial and cremation. Through an informational presentation, video clips of other’s experiences and discussion, we will explore the topic of green burial. Learn the definition, benefits and legalities of green burial, as well as what local resources are available to support your choice to die green

February 16, 2016, 6:30-8:30pm, Dying to be Green, Assisi Heights Spirituality Center, 1001 14th St.NW, Rochester, MNDefinition, benefits, and legalities of green burial, as well as local resources available to support the choice to die green. Presented by the Rochester Area Chapter of the MTN. To register call (507) 280-2195.

Thanks to Deah Kinion, the Rochester Chapter now has a presence on Face Book.  It is a public page, so you don’t have to be a member of FB to access it.  Please “like” it and then invite all your friends to like it too.   Here is the link:

https://www.facebook.com/RochesterChapterMNThresholdNetwork/?fref=ts

 

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Late Life: A Conversation with Atul Gawande 

http://video.tpt.org/video/2365637252/?utm_source=Late+Life%3A+A+Conversation+with+Atul+Gawande&utm_campaign=Late+Life%3A+A+Conversation+with+Atul+Gawande+Airs+on+TPT+Starting+This+Weekend!%3A+&utm_medium=email

Episode: Dr. Atul Gawande, author of “Being Mortal,” shares his vision of healthcare that helps people live well to the end.

Upcoming Broadcast Dates:

  • Sunday, Feb 7| 1:00 a.m. CT (channel: TPTMN)
  • Sunday, Feb 7| 7:00 a.m. CT (channel: TPTMN)
  • Sunday, Feb 7| 1:00 p.m. CT (channel: TPTMN)”

 

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The Mary Hanson Show: Special Mini-Series for Black History Month, tpt 2-2, the MN Channel, Mondays at 10AM, 4 PM, 10 PM and 4 AM

 March 21 – Preparing for End of Life Healthcare Decisions – Guest:  Anne Elizabeth Denny, Consultant, speaker and author of My Voice, My Choice

Twin Cities January Meeting: Sharing Our Stories

We have had rich meetings this fall when we shared our favorite books about death and dying, stories around the pre-death vigil, and poetry, painting and songs that have been meaningful.

Now we invite you to an evening when we have time………to hear your stories.  Here you have an audience of open hearts. What has been your personal experience with death? How has that changed your life or shaped your current thoughts, wishes, or plans for the end of your life or that of your friends or family? As we listen to others’ stories, we better remember our own. And as we share our stories, we give a gift to the listener. So bring a story or come to be a listener. And you will be enriched.

MEETING ON TUESDAY, JANUARY 12, 2016, 7-9pm at the home of  MARIANNE DIETZEL, 2954 HAMLINE AVE.N., ROSEVILLE, MN (one mile north of Hwy. 36, mailbox at end of driveway has an orange flag on it), 651-633-0432.

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Twin Cities December Meeting: Bringing Art into the Conversation about Death

Please join us on Tuesday, December 8, 2015 for an evening of heart-centered sharing about death and dying through poetry, music, and expressive exercises.
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“In taking from us a being we have loved and venerated, death does not wound us without, at the same time, lifting us toward a more perfect understanding of this being and of ourselves.” —Rilke
Linda Bergh and Kyoko Katayama, MTN members, will guide this evening in exploring and sharing each others’ hopes and fears. We invite you to share a poem or image that has moved you.
Gathering will begin at 7pm at the home of Kyoko Katayama, 1474 Branston St., St. Paul, MN 55108 (Como Ave. Exit off 280, then off Como Ave – up the hill on Hendon near Luther Seminary) Phone: 651 485 7557.
MTN meetings are free and open to all.

Rochester Chapter Event November 1: Death & Dessert

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Photo by Kimberly Vardeman via Wikimedia Commons under Creative Commons license.

This is a gathering unlike anything you’ve experienced: cider, dessert, and honest conversation about death and dying. Death isn’t the easiest topic, so we want you to feel like you’re among friends – welcome, relaxed, safe. Let’s have a conversation.

Sunday, Nov. 1 from 4 – 6 PM

People’s Food Co-op, 519 1st Ave. SW, Rochester, MN

Everyone has questions and opinions about death and dying, but we rarely get a chance to share them. We want to give you that chance. This is not an educational program or a grief support group. We don’t subscribe to a particular belief system, and we aren’t selling anything. Death & Dessert is an opportunity to explore our thoughts and feelings about our own mortality and our experiences around the loss of loved ones, in the distant or recent past. Viewing death as a natural part of the life cycle lessens our fear of it and frees us to live more fully and joyfully right now. When you leave Death & Dessert, we want you to feel more comfortable with death and more excited about life.

Space is limited; please RSVP by calling 289-1199, by noon, Friday Oct. 30.

 

“If you can begin to see death as an invisible, but friendly, companion on your life’s journey … then you can learn to live your life rather than simply passing through it.”

— Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, ‘Death and the Final Stage of Growth’

 

November 2015 Twin Cities meeting: The Vigil Project

Photo from a vigil, used with permission of National Home Funeral Alliance
Photo from a vigil, used with permission of National Home Funeral Alliance

Tuesday, November 10, 2015: The Vigil Project: a theatrical presentation by Mayo Clinic chaplain Mary E. Johnson

The Vigil Project presents death vigil stories of everyday people. Mary E. Johnson, creator of The Vigil Project, was chaplain at Mayo Clinic for over 30 years. Since most people don’t have many opportunities for vigil experiences, the Vigil Project gives voice to vigils’ healing potential.
Mary E. Johnson of the Vigil Project
Mary E. Johnson of the Vigil Project

After the presentation will be Q&A and sharing of other before-death and after-death vigil experiences.

The meeting begins at 7pm at the home of Linda Bergh, 4315 Xerxes Ave, Mpls, 55410. Phone: 612-927-0894.

MTN meetings are free and open to all.